MOM GUILT | Maternity Look

Am I the only one that has MOM GUILT sometimes?!? I work in retail, and sometimes the schedules can be pretty demanding, especially during holiday or high traffic days. I am always working, on the go, and when I was in grad school (even though it was online) I still felt like I never had time. My schedule consisted of working all day, and my off days were dedicated to the blog, school work, and most importantly the kiddos. In the back of my head though… I just wasn’t giving or doing enough.

We work so hard as parents to provide for our children, then we feel super guilty when we get off work and its time to put them to bed and its like we are never spending time with them. I always feel guilty about it, and its really sad when you wake up in the morning and your kids say, “MOM, are you going to work?”. They already know what to expect from me everyday, and are surprised when I am off work and at home. Of course I have 2 days off a week, but its never enough time. I break it down and its only 48 hours total, and then you take away the time you are sleeping and out of the week we are down to about 30 hours of time that is actually spent together.

After posing the MOM GUILT question on my Instagram, I see that many of us moms all feel the same way. Your responses were in line to my thoughts exactly, and now I know that I am not the only one that has this feeling. I decided to talk about it on this post because I am now on maternity leave, and lets just say I am in pure heaven. The next few months I will get to spend with my children each and every day. We will play, learn, have tough moments, and there will probably be a plethora of days where I want to pull my hair out. I wouldn’t trade any of this time for anything in the world.

When we first had Ashton, Ahmad and I had a trip planned later on in the year and the guilty feeling of leaving my baby to go on a trip haunted me during my whole vacation. I was face timing my parents so many times even though I knew he was in good hands. It was just the principle that I was out having fun and I left him to do so. Then I realized that as moms and parents in general we deserve a break and to have time to ourselves. I think our marriage and relationship grows even stronger because we take time for ourselves. We are better parents because of it, and with our support system we are grateful that we are able to do that.

I will be going to Puerto Rico this summer, and to leave all 3 kiddos will be hard, but hey this mamma will need a little 3 day break. So I write all of this to say that we all feel this way at times, and its okay! Let go of the MOM GUILT, and live! We are all doing the best we can do. We shouldn’t feel bad about relaxing or taking a little time for ourselves. What we should do though is when we are with our children give them our full attention. Put down the work, don’t answer work phone calls, and just live in the moment with your kiddos. All they want is our attention, and that is what they will remember! They will remember the times you jumped with them in the bed, played on the play set, went to the park, or cheered them on at their little league games. I vow to give my children my time and attention and at the same time let go of the mom guilt feeling!

I hope this post has helped some of you moms out there that may be having the same feelings as me, and remember we are all in this together!

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