MOM CHAT MONDAY | VO. 2

“Can you have it all, & be MOM?” | Vo. 2

Motherhood comes with its on challenges, but I often question can I do it all? Can I have it all? Well, lets start off by answering the question, what is having it all? There may be different answers to that question, and even though we all may answer the question with our own version of the correct answer, the underlining thought still comes to play. To me having it all is having my career, a healthy and loving marriage, and still being able to travel and do all the fun things in life. I obtained my masters recently, and now I have the urge to use it in some form or fashion, but at this point in time I have no time to add any additional activities to my life.

So here we go, can I do everything I want and at the end of the day be the loving and nurturing MOM? I am honored that God gave me 3 babies, and my duty at the end of the day is to be their mom. I look back at my childhood, and my Mom never missed a beat in my life. She was the best mom I could ever ask for, and even today she is still there for me in every way. My mom taught me so much, but I know that she sacrificed a lot to be my mom. Of course she wouldn’t have it any other way, but I sometimes just think about what she wanted in life at an early age, and she could have achieved all of those things if it wasn’t for me. Moms in general make daily sacrifices, and we struggle with the feeling of guilt if we try to do things that don’t pertain to our children.

We work so hard to build our careers, and some times we cant grow in our career because we have children. One thing that kills me is that when you may not perform at work to what your company feel is “performing”, they always bring your personal life and children into it. I’ve spoken to several mothers and have even heard it myself at the workplace that we cant do something because we are pregnant, or the fact that we have children we aren’t open to doing something. Why do they feel that they have the right to tell us what we are capable of doing or not doing just because we have children?

Well, honestly I think we can have it all! I am determined to have it all. It is all about prioritizing and making things happen. If we sit back with the mind set of not being able to have our cake and eat it too, then we wont ever achieve whatever our “ALL” is in life. I am going to be the best mom I can be, and at the same time hit all of my personal goals, career goals, financial goals, and whatever else I want to do. Now it may not be in the timeframe I want it to happen in because lets be realistic, our daily life is full of sacrifices because we are mom.

Moms write down what it means to you to have it all, and lets make it happen! We are our own worst critics and some times set  ourselves back because we don’t think we can do it all. We have made it this far, so sky is the limit from here! We got this…

That’s all for this week, I will see you all next week for Mom Chat Monday! If you have a topic you would like for me to cover please email me at [email protected], or slide in my DM!