MOM CHAT MONDAY | VO. 1

I am super excited to kick start my Mom Chat Monday series! Every Monday I will pick a topic and sound off, and would love if all of you would join me. I have been wanting to do this for some time because I feel like I have great dialogue with all of you through social media, and direct messages. We always talk about motherhood, our children, and just ways on how to try to keep our sanity and keep our lives together. Feel free to continue to message me, and if you have a topic you would like me to speak on share it!

“Why are we so hard on ourselves?” | Vo. 1

Why do we look at celebrities with children and waste our time trying to figure out how they have it all and do it all? OMG, how did she snap back so quickly after having a baby? Did you see Beyonce kill it during Coachella after having twins? How did Kate Middleton pop out a baby and stand in front of the world outside the hospital looking like she gave birth a month a go, and not 7 hours ago? I could go on and on with different scenarios, but then we have to step back into reality for a second and ask, Why are we so hard on ourselves?

We are only hard on ourselves because we have been trained and accustomed to comparing our lives to others. Social media has played a huge part in the way we want to portray our lives, and how we dive into other peoples lives. One of the reasons I wanted to do this post was because we were shooting pictures at home for the blog, and we tried 3 different locations. We started in the backyard, then the front door, then the stairs at our home. Out of the 70 pictures Ahmad snapped in a 15 minute time frame, there wasn’t one picture were we were all smiling, or picture perfect. As I scrolled through the photos, I was getting a little frustrated because I couldn’t find a photo that I liked. Then I stepped back and thought about it. All of the pictures are PERFECT! These pictures symbolize my family and my kids personalities. To me they are just right, but I was trying to find a picture that would be perfect to post on social media. Why do we do that to ourselves? Who cares what people think?! Who cares if we get likes, comments, shares, or saves. I am being true to who I am and my brand! It is kind of like take it or leave it at this point.

I think often times we are our own toughest critics, and especially in the mommy world. We want to be the perfect mom! Well I am here to tell you, that mom doesn’t exist. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves and live in the moment. Take each day as a learning experience and enjoy all of the imperfections and crazy moments that we have. In the photos it may seem like I have it all figured out at times, but in reality I don’t. I am trying to figure out how to get these kids to stop whining all the time, get Averi on some type of sleep schedule, and get Ashton to remember his school lessons the we work on daily. Oh, and on top of that trying to make sure I find some rest and seep in all of that.

Yes, celebrities may have it together with their staff and crew that they have to help them out daily; but remember you don’t really know whats going on behind the scenes. I am pretty sure they feel that stress of being a mom as well. I was reading an article bashing Kylie Jenner because she went to a basketball game, and in the article they were saying she shouldn’t be out and about because she had a baby. I mean come on now, just because we have kids doesn’t mean we can’t have a life. We still should be able to have some sort of fun, and in my case I have great grandparents that love to watch the kiddos. So long as your kids are safe and in good hands, why not take a night off and enjoy yourself?

Let’s stop letting social media or celebrities lives depict what is perfect, and you define what is great for you! Don’t compare yourself to other moms, just be you! Your kids love you because you are their mom and because of your unconditional love. So lets stop being so hard on ourselves MOMMIES!

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