Ahmad and I got married at the courthouse in 2012, and took a few months to plan out our Vegas wedding for 2013. So now we have to celebrate two anniversaries every year, which is heaven for me, and all I can say is poor Ahmad. This November will make 4 years for us, and I am so excited. Being in love, and having someone genuinely love and care for you back means the world. Now that we have two kids, I wanted to make sure our marriage stayed the same. Of course it would change a little because our time will now be spent with the kids, but making time for each other has been our priority.
I wanted to share 5 ways to make your marriage keep going after kids, and a few of my wedding pictures. I never shared them on the blog because I could never narrow them down, and Ahmad lost the disc with all our pictures on it for about 2 years. Yes, I had to throw him under the bus on that one because I was searching every where for the pictures, and was panicking about having to buy them all over again. Ok, enough about my search for pictures and here are the tips!
- Put God First: Praying together and for each other is so important. A while ago, I started a prayer journal where I would write my prayers down every night before bed. Ahmad would then write his prayer in the journal as well. We would read each others prayers, and pray! I can honestly say that reading his prayers melted my heart because I could see his emotional and vulnerable side. He needs God, just as much as I do and that was powerful. Of course we may not write in it every single night, but having that system in place is just a way to keep God first and knowing that you guys are on the same page.
- Stay true to your vows: Remember the reason you married each other. Never take that for granted.
- Remember that kids are an addition, and you guys are the originals: Ahmad and I have to remember that our relationship is just as important as the kids. We have to have date night, get out of the house, travel, and also give each other space. The kids are an addition to our family in which compliments our relationship. We have to be strong in order for the kids to have successful relationships in the future.
- Communicate, like literally over communicate: If something is bothering you, say it. Don’t hold it in for months and explode later. It can be a casual conversation, and realize that neither one of you are perfect. There is going to be things that annoy you of course, but who would know that if you keep it to yourself.
- Take it one day at a Time: That statement speaks for itself!
My Parents! Without them nothing would be possible. Love them long time!!!
Ahmad’s Parents! The best in-laws a girl could ever ask for.